Posts by Disassociated Lady 2

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2016 death of my father who told me don't come back if your a Witness...still hurts my soul! Warning you all!!

by Witness 007 in

i last spoke to my father in march 1990. we finished a "quick build" kingdom hall and i had a 17 year old spiritual awakening and decided to drop high school to pioneer full time.

(yes i was a dumb ass) he was not happy since my parents were divorced he was catholic.

we had a arguement and he said stay in school get a degree...and dont come back if your a witness!!

Disassociated Lady 2

I saw my Dad very rarely over 26 years. I was able to spend some time with him about a month before he passed away. When I went to the funeral one of the JWs said to me "Your Dad talked about you all the time" which made me realize that he missed me as much as I missed him, but it was still no comfort. I felt guilty and returned to the meetings a month after the funeral and even got reinstated. The elders in my local congregation came down so hard on me and had no sympathy at all, I just couldn't carry on with it. I did not attend the judicial hearing as I couldn't take any more of their aggressive behaviour and they disfellowhipped me. My Mum now wants nothing more to do with me, but she is bitter and twisted about being old as she though she would never end up that way. She takes it out on me so I am better off without her. :-( x

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Pyramid Schemes

by schnell in

several years ago, i was introduced to a "wonderful" company called fortune hi tech marketing by a brother and his wife.

they had been introduced by a former sheriff who claims he had researched the company and found no leins or judgments, and that former sheriff had been brought in by a pastor.

you can read what happened with fhtm on wikipedia if you so desire.. this whole new idea of multilevel marketing had my brain reeling, though, and soon enough, i actually signed up with none other than prepaid legal.

Disassociated Lady 2

I was once involved with the selling company Amway. Their selling methods, conventions, the way they dressed were identical to JWs. I found it quite spooky! :-) x

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Help with fading, please...

by longgone in

i just left about six months ago and i'm going through the emotional whirlwind that comes with it.

i would really appreciate some advice on how to keep this fade from turning into my being disfellowshipped.

i'm another born in, third generation.

Disassociated Lady 2

I think the elders are now wise to people getting reinstated to have family contact and then fading after a while. They don't let you fade anymore, you will be harassed until they find some dirt on you to disfellowhip you. I have experienced this and also know of it happening to others :-( x

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Hilarious Radio Standup By An Ex-Witness

by pale.emperor in

guys, you gotta check this out.

she explains the whole religion in a very funny way.. http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b07x6mf3#play.

Disassociated Lady 2

That is very good! :-D xxx

23

Crisis of Conscience Raymond Franz

by Disassociated Lady 2 in

this book has been recommended to me a few times.

is it worth reading?.

how could i get a copy without paying the massive amount stated on amazon and ebay?

Disassociated Lady 2

Thank you for all your comments and thank you to the lovely member who sent me a PDF copy...I am looking forward to reading it :-) xxx

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Final Rejection

by Disassociated Lady 2 in

i have just returned from visiting friends and family.

when i was disassociated my parents had contact with me a few months before my dad was diagnosed with cancer.

i was reinstated 20 months after his funeral and then they disfellowshipped me 5 months later as they are convinced i had not changed my life enough to be a jw again.

Disassociated Lady 2

In answer to Village Idiot - no, my son has never been a JW. When I raised my son and daughter I did not teach them any religion, I suggested they learn about all beliefs themselves and make up their own minds. I learnt that being taught a religion can be like forcing a child to eat vegetables....they could hate them for the rest of their lives! I had already explained to him what JWs can be like but now he has seen it for himself. x

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Crisis of Conscience Raymond Franz

by Disassociated Lady 2 in

this book has been recommended to me a few times.

is it worth reading?.

how could i get a copy without paying the massive amount stated on amazon and ebay?

Disassociated Lady 2

This book has been recommended to me a few times.

Is it worth reading?

How could I get a copy without paying the massive amount stated on Amazon and Ebay?

19

Final Rejection

by Disassociated Lady 2 in

i have just returned from visiting friends and family.

when i was disassociated my parents had contact with me a few months before my dad was diagnosed with cancer.

i was reinstated 20 months after his funeral and then they disfellowshipped me 5 months later as they are convinced i had not changed my life enough to be a jw again.

Disassociated Lady 2

My Mum dislikes me anyway as she sees the "free and wild spirit" in me that was in her before she gave in fully to the JWs. She doesn't want to be reminded of it, so it is easy for her to have an excuse not to see me. Very sad. x

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Final Rejection

by Disassociated Lady 2 in

i have just returned from visiting friends and family.

when i was disassociated my parents had contact with me a few months before my dad was diagnosed with cancer.

i was reinstated 20 months after his funeral and then they disfellowshipped me 5 months later as they are convinced i had not changed my life enough to be a jw again.

Disassociated Lady 2

I have just returned from visiting friends and family. When I was disassociated my parents had contact with me a few months before my Dad was diagnosed with cancer. I was reinstated 20 months after his funeral and then they disfellowshipped me 5 months later as they are convinced I had not changed my life enough to be a JW again.

As my mother had been seeing me before my reinstatement I went to visit her with my adult son. She opened the door and said she could not entertain us as my sister (who has been an inactive JW for years) would soon be visiting. My mother looked at me and said "You know the rules". I replied that is was cruel. She said it was not cruel. I refused to become the "little girl" again in front of her so I told her some home truths. I also mentioned that it says in the Watchtowers "You should honour your family commitments but keep contact to a minimum" I live over 300 miles away from her so I only visit once or twice a year. The fact that the JWs allow minimum contact and she doesn't even want to give me that says more about her than it does about the JWs and I told her so...this is HER choice not theirs!!!!

I was also very angry that my 24 year old son was with me and she refused to invite him in either as I offered to go elsewhere. Anyway after saying my piece she slammed the door on me and we left.

The next time I will see her now is probably in her box!!

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Why cant Judicial Committees be taped?

by HereIgo in

i have never understood this.

was it because of legal reasons?

i cant think of any other reason why it wouldn't be allowed, but i know the elders ask you repeatedly that you are not taping.

Disassociated Lady 2

So that there are no witnesses to hear how nasty and abusive they are to single women who have to sit in front of them. (I know this to be true) x